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Spread A Scandal

I’ve been a fan of Cal Exotics’ Scandal line for quite a while now. I love the color combination and the variety of items that match beautifully and are functionally fun. This month, as part of their Sexpert program, I received another item in this line, the Scandal Spreader Bar, for free to review.

scandalboxThis spreader bar from Cal Exotics comes in a large box with a picture of the product in use on the front and some information on the back. Inside the box, the bar comes in pieces inside of a plastic bag and is wrapped to protect it before use. Inside the bag are a black metal bar, two covered ends, and two pins to attach them to the bar.

scandalbarswrappedThe bar, which is made of nickel-free black iron, is 15 ½” long with 8 evenly spaced holes to attach the end pieces. These pieces are just over 12” long, and have a black metal loop (which unscrews) on each end. Both pieces are covered with red and black polyester fabric which has a lacy pattern to it. The fabric is well secured to both ends and also down the seam. Each of these pieces also has a hole about 1” from the end to attach it to the bar.

scandalsetfromboxThe fabric covered pieces are attached to the black bar by 2 pins. The pins, which are also made of nickel-free iron, are about 1 ¾” long and have a 1” loop on one end.

This spreader bar is easy to assemble. Simply line up the hole on each end piece with the holes on the black bar, and slide each end onto the bar as far as desired. Once the holes line up, insert the pin all the way through to secure each end to the bar.

At its shortest, the assembled spreader bar is about 24” long, and both end pieces completely cover the inner black bar. At its longest, the bar is about 36” long and will have a 12” section of the black bar visible. The bar can be adjusted in 2” increments to achieve the desired spread. No matter what length you assemble the bar to, it’s sturdy and won’t flex or come apart. Cuffs with connectors can easily be snapped onto the loops on each end of the bar.

scandalbarshort2scandalbarlongWith the bar at its shortest, 24”, the spread will be comfortable for most. Depending on the position you’re in, the 36” spread is manageable and will leave you wide open.

The Scandal Spreader Bar is easy to clean if necessary. All parts can be wiped down with a warm, soapy cloth and wiped dry.  Since it comes apart, the bar is easy to store and takes up very little space.

So, Did It Work? I really like this spreader bar. It’s pretty, unlike many of the bars I have, and it coordinates beautifully with the rest of the Scandal line. It’s easy to adjust the width of the bar, even during use, and it can be used with any cuffs by using standard connectors to connect over the bar’s loops.

Thank you to Cal Exotics for sending me the Scandal Spreader bar to review! This adjustable bar would be a good addition to anyone’s collection. If you’re interested in this bar, or other items in the Scandal line, you can pick them up at SheVibe by clicking the widget below.

 

This product was provided to me for free in exchange for an unbiased review. This review is in compliance with the FTC guidelines.

Wicked Wednesday: Get On Your Knees

By Harold Kane (thought to be a pseudonym of Joe Shuster) [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

By Harold Kane (thought to be a pseudonym of Joe Shuster) [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

I was anxiously waiting for James. He’d left me alone in the sparsely furnished and dimly lit room to prepare myself for tonight’s play. I knelt back on my heels, my legs spread, my sex open and my clit clearly aroused. My hands were cuffed behind my back, and they were connected by a strap to the cuffs on my ankles. The strap was short, and with my arms pulled back behind me, my breasts jutted out, nipples at attention. A slim black collar was around my neck. The collar had a D-ring on the back, and a strap was attached behind my back to both it and my wrists, leaving me helpless, exposed, excited beyond imagining, and wet with arousal.

I had carefully done my hair and makeup: my long blonde hair was curled and brushed until it shone, and it cascaded down my back to dust the floor with its tips. My face was done up with rosy blush, smoky eye shadow, and dark liner. My lashes, naturally long, were coated with black mascara, and my lipstick was as red as blood. James hadn’t bothered with a gag, although he’d admonished me to keep quiet until her returned. I kept my neck high as I looked around. The many red candles cast a warm glow and provided the only light, and I spent the time wondering what game he had in store for me tonight.

Suddenly the candles flickered as a breeze disturbed them, and then James was there, naked, standing before me. I looked at his swollen cock and then up at his face, which was bathed in shadow. I opened my mouth to speak, but he put his finger to my lips, shushing me.

“You won’t speak tonight,” he said. He raised his hand, and I noticed he was holding a gag. I opened my mouth obediently, expecting a ball, but instead found a ring slipped inside my mouth, behind my teeth. I’d never worn a gag like this, but as he gently lifted my hair to buckle it around my head, I realized that I wouldn’t be able to close my mouth. It wasn’t uncomfortable even though my mouth was wide open.

James finished securing the gag, and stood in front of me again. Saliva began to build in my mouth, and I found it difficult to swallow. When I looked up he was grinning,

“I know how much you like cock,” he said, and my eyes dropped again to his hard member. I did love his cock. I loved to lick it and taste it. It was one of my favorite things to do. Sometimes I’d even wake him in the mornings with a slow sensuous blowjob, letting him slide down my throat as far as I could take him, which wasn’t very far.  Even though he always wanted me to swallow—I couldn’t take him far enough to have his come shoot down my throat—and he said I used my hands too much, James loved to fuck my mouth. As I began to drool, I realized the scenario he’d planned for tonight. I was certainly wet and ready for what I had in store.

James came closer, and his cock slipped through the ring. My mouth was completely lubricated, and I had no trouble taking his shaft in. It was strange not to be able to wrap my lips around him, but my tongue licked at the underside of his cock as he slowly went further into my mouth. I thought I was going to gag, but he stopped and waited until my mouth and throat relaxed. I wanted to be open to him, and in my aroused state I finally took him all the way in, my face nuzzled into his crotch. His musky smell made me lick frantically at the bottom of his cock, causing my juices to mingle with the drool dripping from my breasts on the floor below.

A muffled groan escaped my throat as James began to work his cock slowly in and out of my mouth. I wanted to open wider. I wanted to use my hands and play with his balls, but they were firmly secured when I tugged at them. I groaned again, and looked up from his crotch into his eyes, which were filled with desire. James looked down, smiled wickedly, and began to go faster. We stared into each other’s eyes as he thrust his cock into my throat, deeper than he’d ever been, until he threw back his head and let out a groan of his own.

James lustfully returned his gaze to mine, and I could feel my pussy clench with desire. His hands, which had been gently stroking my hair, now grasped my head. He wound his fingers through my hair and pulled my mouth down on his cock, faster and faster. I could feel his cock pulsing in my mouth with each thrust, and I drooled uncontrollably, licking and moaning. He began to shudder, and then with a last thrust he shot his come deep into the back of my throat.

I felt his cock go soft in my mouth, but he held me pressed to his groin for a few minutes longer before slowly pulling out of my mouth. He grasped my chin and tipped my head up, then bent down and kissed me lightly on my upper lip. Gently he unbuckled the gag and removed it. It was a relief to finally be able to close my mouth and swallow. With a towel, James softly dabbed the saliva from the corners of my lips and off of my breasts before cleaning up the large puddle on the floor.

As he removed all my bonds except my collar, I was trembling. But I didn’t break position until he said, “You can relax now.” I rolled off my knees onto my rear and rubbed my wrists, then wiped my mouth with the back of my hand.

“Did you enjoy that?” he asked, as he sat next to me on the floor.

I nodded, not yet able to speak. I had enjoyed it, and I wanted to do it again.

I looked deep into his eyes.  James leaned over and kissed me passionately, and I practically melted into his arms. We held each other for a while before he reached up and unfastened my collar. He rose, took my hand, and pulled me to my feet, then tossed the collar on the floor as we exited the room and headed to bed.

 

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With A Click Of The Switch

I love having my nipples played with. Usually it doesn’t involve toys, but sometimes I use jewelry or clamps. The clamps that I’ve used up to now, though, were more decorative (and almost always tweezer clips). I’d never tried vibrating ones before, so I was excited to receive the Nipple Play Advanced Vibrating Heated Nipple Teasers from Cal Exotics for free to review this month as part of their Sexpert program.

calexinboxThese clamps come in a large, clear clamshell case. They’re visible through the front, and the enclosed paper has product information on the front and back. The case is easy to open, and inside are the clamps with attached bullets and the controller.

calexoutofboxThe clamps only come in black.  The clamps themselves are non-tarnishing iron, while the pads on the tips and the cord are made from phthalate-free PVC. The bullets and the controller are made of ABS plastic with a smooth finish.

Each clamp is about 1 3/4″ long and about 5/8” wide, and sits atop a slim bullet, which is about 2” long. The clamp, which is slightly curved underneath, can be loosened or tightened via a screw, and it’s easy to calexclampopenadjust. It should fit most nipples, whether large or small, and once it’s at the desired tightness it stays in place. The bullet and clamp don’t weigh a lot, but you will notice a pulling sensation. The clamps are most comfortable with the bullet hanging down if you’re standing, and to the outside if you’re lying on your back. The bullets have a 15” cord leading from them, and once the cords join, the cord is an additional 15” long before it attaches to the controller.

calexbutton

The controller is about 4 1/2” long. It’s contoured and comfortable to hold. The battery compartment is accessed by sliding the cover forward and then up, and it holds 2 AA batteries. On the front of the controller is a single silver, teardrop-shaped button.  Pressing the button once starts the bullets vibrating on low, and a second press makes them vibrate on high. A third press of the button will turn the vibrations off. While on low or high speed, the button can also be partially pressed to turn the vibrations on and off at the same speed.  The vibrations are buzzy and quite strong, and they’re also pretty quiet.  During use, the bullets will warm up, adding to the stimulation.

calexbatteriesThis is not a waterproof toy, so care should be used when cleaning. The bullets, clamps, and controller can be wiped with toy cleaner, toy wipes, or antibacterial soap and water – neither the bullets or the controller should be submerged. It’s easy to store this in a toy bag or small box, and the batteries should be removed when storing it.

calexclampSo, Did It Work?  My nipples are pretty large, and I usually have some trouble with nipple clamps that aren’t the tweezer style.  These clamps, however, were adjustable enough to get on my nipples, and I could tighten them down enough so they didn’t slip off.  They were heavier than I was expecting, but they weren’t so heavy that they bothered me (and they are really quite light – but heavier than the nipple clamps I’ve worn before).

I had also never tried vibrating clamps, so I wasn’t sure what to expect.  The low speed was crazy – my nipples are sensitive, and while I like them pinched and sucked on, even a feather touch will drive me nuts. The vibrations were intense – and felt great. I noticed after a it of steady vibration they stopped feeling it, but a touch on my nipples revealed that they were even more sensitive.  The clamps do heat up, but not uncomfortably so, and it adds even more sensation.

The button on this is great – pressing without fully pressing to change the speed stops the vibrations, and it’s a great way to tease and make the vibrations seem more intense.

Overall, I’d recommend these clamps if you like having your nipples teased. They’ll fit a variety of nipple sizes, and the vibrations are fun and arousing.

Thank you to Cal Exotics for sending these to me for free to review as part of the Sexpert program!

Kink Of The Week: Dacryphilia

By MarcoBolognesi (Own work) [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

By MarcoBolognesi (Own work) [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

Dacryphilia: to be sexually aroused by your partner’s tears (Urban Dictionary)

I’m not much into crying. I’ve done my fair share, it’s true, especially this past year. Besides normal life, there are some movies that reduce me to a sobbing mess at the end (Donnie Darko and Star Trek II to name a few)….there’s even some movies I refused to watch to the end because I’d knew I’d cry (Marley & Me comes to mind). A few songs leave me teary eyed, depending on my mood.  I hate for others to see me cry, no matter who it is. So, as you can imagine, crying isn’t something I want to do during sex, although I can see how this might be an attraction for some.

Now, that’s not to say I don’t shed tears during play. But it’s rarely been because of a spanking or paddling (winces and cries are much more likely). When I do cry lately, it tends to be because I am having such a strong orgasm. The kind that used to just overwhelm me now can’t be contained, and copious amounts of tears run down my face. I’m not sad – far from it. But I can’t control these tears no matter how hard I try. In a way, I guess it is an emotional release of sorts, as well as a physical one.

My husband has never tried to make me cry when we’re playing – in fact, he’s rather disconcerted when he sees the salty tears roll down my cheeks…no matter how gentle or rough he’s being, I can’t control them. I don’t think they turn him off, but they’re not exactly a turnon for him either. I’ve only seen him cry a time or two, never during sex, and his tears are not a turn on for me, either.

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Something To Bite On

calexbitboxI’ve had the opportunity to review several of the items in Cal Exotics’ Scandal bondage line, and all of them have been fun. I love how they all coordinate with each other, allowing me to mix and match the pieces I want to use and still get a sexy, elegant look for the evening. This month, as part of Cal Exotics’ Sexpert program, I received an item I’d been wanting to try for a while – the Scandal Bar Gag – for free to review.

The Scandal Bar Gag comes in a large cardboard box, with a picture of the item on the front and back. Inside, the Gag comes sealed inside a plastic bag.

calexbitpic1The gag consists of two pieces – the bar and the straps. The bar is about 5 3/4” long and has a gentle curve. It has a 1/2” diameter, through which the fabric tie is threaded. The bar is made of phthalate-free PVC, and it has no smell or taste.  The bar is firm, but it will flex a bit. You can bite into the bar as well – if you bite for a long time, or very hard, teeth marks will appear on the bar. Depending on just how hard you bite, the marks may slowly disappear, or the indentations from your teeth may remain.

The fabric tie is 2 1/2” wide and about 53” long. It’s made of polyester, and is red with a black lace overlay, like the other pieces in the Scandal line.  The bar gag is centered on the tie, and then two simple knots on either side of the bar hold it in place, leaving about 22 1/2” on each side to tie. The gag is easy to tie, and its length allows it to hit a variety of head sizes.

calexbitThe bar can be wiped with soap and water, then dried. If necessary, the tie can be wiped with a wet cloth and allowed to dry before storing the gag away. It doesn’t take up much space, and can be stored in a drawer or bag. If necessary, the tie can be unknotted and pulled out from the gag. After washing and drying, a small rod (a pencil will do) will be necessary to push the fabric through the bit so it can be retied.

So, Did It Work? I’d never tried a bar gag before, so this was a good one to start with. I liked the size of the bar – it didn’t make me open my mouth too widely when i had it in, and I liked that I could bite into it if necessary. It doesn’t muffle sound, as you might expect, but it does make talking fairly unintelligible. The straps were easy for my husband to tie around my head, and they were comfortable where they touched my skin.  I love that this matches the rest of the Scandal line, and it gives us some variety when we play.

Thank you to Cal Exotics for sending me this bar gag to review! If you’d like to try out a bar gag, this one from the Scandal line is a good choice – it’s pretty, well made, and inexpensive, and it coordinates nicely with other products in the Scandal line, which include bed restraints, a hog tie set, and a collar with leash. If you’re interested in trying this one out, you can pick it up at SheVibe by clicking on the widget below.

 

This product was provided to me for free in exchange for an unbiased review. This review is in compliance with the FTC guidelines.