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Spread A Scandal

I’ve been a fan of Cal Exotics’ Scandal line for quite a while now. I love the color combination and the variety of items that match beautifully and are functionally fun. This month, as part of their Sexpert program, I received another item in this line, the Scandal Spreader Bar, for free to review.

scandalboxThis spreader bar from Cal Exotics comes in a large box with a picture of the product in use on the front and some information on the back. Inside the box, the bar comes in pieces inside of a plastic bag and is wrapped to protect it before use. Inside the bag are a black metal bar, two covered ends, and two pins to attach them to the bar.

scandalbarswrappedThe bar, which is made of nickel-free black iron, is 15 ½” long with 8 evenly spaced holes to attach the end pieces. These pieces are just over 12” long, and have a black metal loop (which unscrews) on each end. Both pieces are covered with red and black polyester fabric which has a lacy pattern to it. The fabric is well secured to both ends and also down the seam. Each of these pieces also has a hole about 1” from the end to attach it to the bar.

scandalsetfromboxThe fabric covered pieces are attached to the black bar by 2 pins. The pins, which are also made of nickel-free iron, are about 1 ¾” long and have a 1” loop on one end.

This spreader bar is easy to assemble. Simply line up the hole on each end piece with the holes on the black bar, and slide each end onto the bar as far as desired. Once the holes line up, insert the pin all the way through to secure each end to the bar.

At its shortest, the assembled spreader bar is about 24” long, and both end pieces completely cover the inner black bar. At its longest, the bar is about 36” long and will have a 12” section of the black bar visible. The bar can be adjusted in 2” increments to achieve the desired spread. No matter what length you assemble the bar to, it’s sturdy and won’t flex or come apart. Cuffs with connectors can easily be snapped onto the loops on each end of the bar.

scandalbarshort2scandalbarlongWith the bar at its shortest, 24”, the spread will be comfortable for most. Depending on the position you’re in, the 36” spread is manageable and will leave you wide open.

The Scandal Spreader Bar is easy to clean if necessary. All parts can be wiped down with a warm, soapy cloth and wiped dry.  Since it comes apart, the bar is easy to store and takes up very little space.

So, Did It Work? I really like this spreader bar. It’s pretty, unlike many of the bars I have, and it coordinates beautifully with the rest of the Scandal line. It’s easy to adjust the width of the bar, even during use, and it can be used with any cuffs by using standard connectors to connect over the bar’s loops.

Thank you to Cal Exotics for sending me the Scandal Spreader bar to review! This adjustable bar would be a good addition to anyone’s collection. If you’re interested in this bar, or other items in the Scandal line, you can pick them up at SheVibe by clicking the widget below.

 

This product was provided to me for free in exchange for an unbiased review. This review is in compliance with the FTC guidelines.

Something To Bite On

calexbitboxI’ve had the opportunity to review several of the items in Cal Exotics’ Scandal bondage line, and all of them have been fun. I love how they all coordinate with each other, allowing me to mix and match the pieces I want to use and still get a sexy, elegant look for the evening. This month, as part of Cal Exotics’ Sexpert program, I received an item I’d been wanting to try for a while – the Scandal Bar Gag – for free to review.

The Scandal Bar Gag comes in a large cardboard box, with a picture of the item on the front and back. Inside, the Gag comes sealed inside a plastic bag.

calexbitpic1The gag consists of two pieces – the bar and the straps. The bar is about 5 3/4” long and has a gentle curve. It has a 1/2” diameter, through which the fabric tie is threaded. The bar is made of phthalate-free PVC, and it has no smell or taste.  The bar is firm, but it will flex a bit. You can bite into the bar as well – if you bite for a long time, or very hard, teeth marks will appear on the bar. Depending on just how hard you bite, the marks may slowly disappear, or the indentations from your teeth may remain.

The fabric tie is 2 1/2” wide and about 53” long. It’s made of polyester, and is red with a black lace overlay, like the other pieces in the Scandal line.  The bar gag is centered on the tie, and then two simple knots on either side of the bar hold it in place, leaving about 22 1/2” on each side to tie. The gag is easy to tie, and its length allows it to hit a variety of head sizes.

calexbitThe bar can be wiped with soap and water, then dried. If necessary, the tie can be wiped with a wet cloth and allowed to dry before storing the gag away. It doesn’t take up much space, and can be stored in a drawer or bag. If necessary, the tie can be unknotted and pulled out from the gag. After washing and drying, a small rod (a pencil will do) will be necessary to push the fabric through the bit so it can be retied.

So, Did It Work? I’d never tried a bar gag before, so this was a good one to start with. I liked the size of the bar – it didn’t make me open my mouth too widely when i had it in, and I liked that I could bite into it if necessary. It doesn’t muffle sound, as you might expect, but it does make talking fairly unintelligible. The straps were easy for my husband to tie around my head, and they were comfortable where they touched my skin.  I love that this matches the rest of the Scandal line, and it gives us some variety when we play.

Thank you to Cal Exotics for sending me this bar gag to review! If you’d like to try out a bar gag, this one from the Scandal line is a good choice – it’s pretty, well made, and inexpensive, and it coordinates nicely with other products in the Scandal line, which include bed restraints, a hog tie set, and a collar with leash. If you’re interested in trying this one out, you can pick it up at SheVibe by clicking on the widget below.

 

This product was provided to me for free in exchange for an unbiased review. This review is in compliance with the FTC guidelines.

Open and Alert

I really like the Scandal line from Cal Exotics. The twenty items in this collection are all stylish in red and black, and mix and match wonderfully. This month, as part of Cal Exotics’ Sexpert program, I received the Scandal Open Mouth Gag With Clamps for free to review.

collarboxThe Scandal Open Mouth Gag with Clamps comes in a large cardboard box, with a picture of the product on the front and back, each picture showing a different way it can be used. The back of the box also contains product information in several languages. Inside the box are the gag, clamps on chains (the chains protected by wrapping), and an extra ring for the gag.

collarinpackagingThe gag is about ¾” wide. The top half is red with black lacy overlay, while the bottom is velour-like and soft on the skin (the material is polyester). The stitching is secure all around. There are two strap pieces to the gag: the adjustable side, with 8 holes, is about 13 ½” long, and the buckle side (including the buckle) is about 13”.  With 8 The hardware on the straps is nickel-free iron, and the buckles are a nickel-free alloy.

collarclamplinksThe two straps snap around the removable gag ring. This set comes with 2 rings, one nickel-free iron, and the other rubber, both 1 ½” in diameter. The rubber ring is best if you want to be able to close your mouth or aren’t used to the hardness or size of the metal ring. A smaller ring can also be used in place of the rings provided.

With the included rings, the gag can be adjusted from about 19 ½” up to about 23 ½”, so you should be able to get a comfortable fit. Additionally, if you want to remove the gag, it can be dropped down onto the neck as a loose collar.

collarbuckleTwo small D-rings are attached to the gag about 1 ½” away from the ring. These rings are meant to attach the included chained clamps. The chains for the clamps are about 23” long, and are easy to attach and remove from the gag. The attached clamps are about 2 ¼” long, and are made of nickel-free iron. The tips are padded with phthalate free PVC, and the clamps open to about ¾”, so they will work on larger nipples.  Each clamp also has an adjustable screw to change the degree of tightness when the clamp is used.

collarclampThis set is easy to clean. The chains and clamp can be wiped or rinsed off and dried. The gag itself can be cleaned with a damp cloth if necessary, and it can also be washed in a lingerie bag on the gentle cycle in the washer and line dried. The pieces can be stored in the box, but can also easily be stored in a bag or flat in a drawer.

So, Did It Work?
This is a fun set! As I’ve mentioned in previous reviews of the Scandal line, I love the color combination – red and black, for me, is classy and erotic – as it goes with so much of the lingerie I have.  The gag is adjustable, and once we figured out the best angle, it was easy to secure in place.

collaroutofboxI love that this comes with two rings, and that other sizes of rings can be used. While I often think I have a big mouth, the metal 1 ½” ring is just a bit large for me to wear comfortably for long periods of time. Shorter periods I can do, but it’s great to have the option to use a smaller one. The rubber ring I also liked, as it let me close my mouth when I needed to, when the play wasn’t as rough.  This was easy to use as a loose-fitting collar as well, and no problem to get it back into position as a gag.

I’ve never had a gag that had attachments for anything, but being able to have the nipple clamps attached (or not, as the mood strikes) is something else I like about this set. The chains aren’t too heavy to make wearing it uncomfortable, and I particularly like that the clamps can be spread wide to accommodate my nipples – I often have trouble with clams on sets because they are too shallow or don’t open wide enough for me to use.  These were comfortable to wear for long periods of time, stimulating, and, since they’re detachable, I can use them with other collars.

Thank you to Cal Exotics for sending me the Scandal Open Mouth Gag With Clamps to review! This is a great addition to the Scandal line, which includes a Hogtie Set, Collar With Leash, Bed Restraints, and many more pieces, and it’s one I’d recommend if you like open-mouth gags and also enjoy using nipple clamps. You can check out this Gag/Clamp combo and other Scandal items at SheVibe by clicking the widget below.

This product was provided to me for free in exchange for an unbiased review. This review is in compliance with the FTC guidelines.

Wicked Wednesday: Full Circle

A circle….perfect, round….I wait for you to slide it between my teeth….and it will hold my mouth open in a circle….waiting for you….

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Wicked Wednesday... a place to be wickedly sexy or sexily wicked

Kink Of The Week: Orgasm Control

By Photos by flipchip / LasVegasVegas.com [CC-BY-SA-3.0], via Wikimedia Commons

By Photos by flipchip / LasVegasVegas.com [CC-BY-SA-3.0], via Wikimedia Commons

I don’t have very good orgasm control. I can hold back for a while, but when I have to cum, I have to cum. Trying to hold back, for me, often makes my orgasms much more intense than if I just came when I was ready. If I was told not to orgasm, I could only do it for so long, and then it’d be all over.

Forced orgasms, on the other hand, I do enjoy to a point. WHen I’m bound, I like having a wand making me cum over and over, and being powerless to stop it. But after several orgasms, I really feel like I just can’t have any more. Which of course I can, but they’re so intense at that point that I need a break. They aren’t punishment, by any means, and I don’t think even for a sense of control, but just for satisfaction during play.

I’ve heard that people can cum on command, but I’m certainly not one of them. I can be aroused and dripping at just a few words, but I can’t seem to take it all the way. It’s something I’d like to know more about, but I suspect it’s something I’d never be able to achieve.

 

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