I’m not much into crying. I’ve done my fair share, it’s true, especially this past year. Besides normal life, there are some movies that reduce me to a sobbing mess at the end (Donnie Darko and Star Trek II to name a few)….there’s even some movies I refused to watch to the end because I’d knew I’d cry (Marley & Me comes to mind). A few songs leave me teary eyed, depending on my mood. I hate for others to see me cry, no matter who it is. So, as you can imagine, crying isn’t something I want to do during sex, although I can see how this might be an attraction for some.
Now, that’s not to say I don’t shed tears during play. But it’s rarely been because of a spanking or paddling (winces and cries are much more likely). When I do cry lately, it tends to be because I am having such a strong orgasm. The kind that used to just overwhelm me now can’t be contained, and copious amounts of tears run down my face. I’m not sad – far from it. But I can’t control these tears no matter how hard I try. In a way, I guess it is an emotional release of sorts, as well as a physical one.
My husband has never tried to make me cry when we’re playing – in fact, he’s rather disconcerted when he sees the salty tears roll down my cheeks…no matter how gentle or rough he’s being, I can’t control them. I don’t think they turn him off, but they’re not exactly a turnon for him either. I’ve only seen him cry a time or two, never during sex, and his tears are not a turn on for me, either.
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