TMI Tuesday: Oh Behave!

François Boucher [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

François Boucher [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

This week TMI Tuesday takes its cue from the world of psychology and sociology, which both deal with behavior.

1. Catharsis - What behavior or activity do you do to achieve catharsis?
This is the time of year that I need to achieve catharsis. I have a lot of sadness this time of year (I know, a rotten time to slink into the blues with the holidays and all), so I go nuts making candy and baking. I’ve always loved to do it, but I tend to do it in overabundance now, spending that day making cookie after cookie, chocolate after chocolate, and trying not to cry in the mix. I think it helps…I guess it must, or I wouldn’t continue to do it.

2. Self-affirmations was made famous by Saturday Night Live character Stuart Smalley (now Senator Al Franken): “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and gosh-darn it, people like me.” What self-affirmation do you say/or should you say to yourself?
Hmm…I guess something like “I can do this, I know I can do this.” It applies to a lot of things.

3. “I knew it all along.” What did you know all along?
I don’t know if there’s anything I’ve known all along – at least nothing I can think of right now.

4. Daydreaming. About whom or what was your last daydream?
I try not to daydream too much, but usually my daydreams involve frolicking in the shallow waters of the ocean before walking on the sandy beach and relaxing on a beach chair with an umbrella and a pina colada.

5. We all have fears. What fear (real or improbable) have you taken steps against to protect yourself.
I have a lot of fears, I guess, although I don’t consider myself a fearful person. My biggest fear is dying, or the ones I love dying, and how do you protect yourself from that?

6. Relationship churning–How many on-agin off-again relationships have you been in? Why would you say you that you repeat this behavior?
Hmmm….I don’t think I’ve ever been in that kind of relationship.

Bonus: Self-monitoring is the ability to both observe (or measure) and evaluate one’s behavior. It is an important component in human behavior that aids one to measure their behavioral outcomes against a set of standards. What sort of self-monitoring do you do on a regular basis?
I don’t do a lot of self-monitoring, as I’m terrible about evaluating my own behaviors…and I find it somewhat depressing. Probably the only self-monitoring I do concerns my eating and exercising.


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Something To Bite On

calexbitboxI’ve had the opportunity to review several of the items in Cal Exotics’ Scandal bondage line, and all of them have been fun. I love how they all coordinate with each other, allowing me to mix and match the pieces I want to use and still get a sexy, elegant look for the evening. This month, as part of Cal Exotics’ Sexpert program, I received an item I’d been wanting to try for a while – the Scandal Bar Gag – for free to review.

The Scandal Bar Gag comes in a large cardboard box, with a picture of the item on the front and back. Inside, the Gag comes sealed inside a plastic bag.

calexbitpic1The gag consists of two pieces – the bar and the straps. The bar is about 5 3/4” long and has a gentle curve. It has a 1/2” diameter, through which the fabric tie is threaded. The bar is made of phthalate-free PVC, and it has no smell or taste.  The bar is firm, but it will flex a bit. You can bite into the bar as well – if you bite for a long time, or very hard, teeth marks will appear on the bar. Depending on just how hard you bite, the marks may slowly disappear, or the indentations from your teeth may remain.

The fabric tie is 2 1/2” wide and about 53” long. It’s made of polyester, and is red with a black lace overlay, like the other pieces in the Scandal line.  The bar gag is centered on the tie, and then two simple knots on either side of the bar hold it in place, leaving about 22 1/2” on each side to tie. The gag is easy to tie, and its length allows it to hit a variety of head sizes.

calexbitThe bar can be wiped with soap and water, then dried. If necessary, the tie can be wiped with a wet cloth and allowed to dry before storing the gag away. It doesn’t take up much space, and can be stored in a drawer or bag. If necessary, the tie can be unknotted and pulled out from the gag. After washing and drying, a small rod (a pencil will do) will be necessary to push the fabric through the bit so it can be retied.

So, Did It Work? I’d never tried a bar gag before, so this was a good one to start with. I liked the size of the bar – it didn’t make me open my mouth too widely when i had it in, and I liked that I could bite into it if necessary. It doesn’t muffle sound, as you might expect, but it does make talking fairly unintelligible. The straps were easy for my husband to tie around my head, and they were comfortable where they touched my skin.  I love that this matches the rest of the Scandal line, and it gives us some variety when we play.

Thank you to Cal Exotics for sending me this bar gag to review! If you’d like to try out a bar gag, this one from the Scandal line is a good choice – it’s pretty, well made, and inexpensive, and it coordinates nicely with other products in the Scandal line, which include bed restraints, a hog tie set, and a collar with leash. If you’re interested in trying this one out, you can pick it up at SheVibe by clicking on the widget below.


This product was provided to me for free in exchange for an unbiased review. This review is in compliance with the FTC guidelines.

Seven Minutes To Heaven

Rabbits are peeking out everywhere, and while they may seem more for spring, they’re definitely worth checking out this Christmas holiday season! This week, I had the pleasure of trying out the Envy 7, one of 12 toys in the Jopen Envy line, which Jopen sent to me for free in exchange for a review.

envyboxThe Envy 7 from Jopen, which has a one year warranty, comes in a sturdy black box with a pink color wave on the front. On the back is a picture of the toy along with a description of its features. The box has a magnetic lid, and flips open, making it suitable for storage. Inside are the toy and a USB charging cord resting in foam, as well as a booklet explaining care and use.

envyinboxThis rabbit vibrator is only available in pink – and it’s a rich, bright color. The toy is made of firm silicone, which is smooth and has very little drag to the surface.  It’s on the smaller side for rabbits: just 7 1/4″ long overall, and it has a flat bottom so it can stand upright.

envyinhand2The Envy 7’s shaft is about 4 1/2″ insertable. The head has a gentle taper, and widens to 1 1/2″ before narrowing closer to the base. It’s completely smooth, and has a gentle curve to hit your G-spot during use. One of the Envy 7’s motors is located in the shaft’s head. The shaft is firm, and doesn’t flex.

Like traditional rabbit vibrators, the Envy 7’s clitoral arm has a bunny shape, complete with ears, although it’s quite stylized. The arm is 2 1/2″ long and 1 1/4″ wide at its widest point. The clit arm also has a motor for strong vibes where they’re needed. The arm can flex outward a bit from the shaft, but it doesn’t have a wide range of movement.

The motors can run separately or together, but if both are turned on, they will have the same pattern.

envybottombuttonsThis is a rechargeable vibrator. The charging jack slips into a small hole on the bottom of the base, and then the Envy 7 can be plugged into a computer or wall USB charger. Charging is quick: it’s fully charged in just 2 1/2 hours. The Envy 7 will run for about 45 minutes on high, and up to 2 1/2 hours on low. LED lights will flash red when charging, and will go out when charging is complete.

envybottomlitThe Envy 7 has a locking feature, making it great for travel. It arrives locked – to unlock, simply push both bottom buttons for about 4 seconds. The Envy 7 will briefly buzz to indicate it’s been locked or unlocked.

This rabbit vibrator has 3 buttons for control: one below the clit arm on the base, and two on the bottom of the toy. The front button can be used once the toy is turned on – it controls which of the motors are on, either just the shaft, just the clit arm, or both.

envyfrontandbotbuttonsThe two bottom buttons are labeled “I” and “F”. The “I” button is to the left when the Envy 7 is inside of you, and the “F” button is to the right.  To turn on the Envy 7, press “I” once. The vibrations will start out low and steady. By pressing and holding the “I” button, the strength of the vibrations increase, up to very strong and thuddy, not buzzy. Pressing the “F” button will cycle through the 7 various pulsing and escalating patterns the Envy 7 has.  The buttons will glow with red LED when the Envy 7 is on.

Envy 7 also has something cool –  a memory chip to resume the last function used. Simply press the “F” button when the vibrator is off, and it will start up where you left off, so no more hunting for your favorite setting. You will have to hold down the “I” button to get the intensity up to speed – the chip remembers the pattern but not the strength.

envyshaftandrabbitThe vibrations on high are nice and deep, both in the clit arm and in the shaft. They’re also pretty quiet, so any background noise will mask the use of the toy. The Envy 7 is completely waterproof, so it’s great to take with you into the tub.

This is an easy to clean vibrator: wash with mild soap and water, or use a toy cleaner or wipes. Once dry, it can be stored in its box along with its charging cable. Water-based lubes are recommended, but if you prefer silicone lube, do a spot test towards the bottom of the base first.

envysideviewSo, Did It Work? This is one powerful rabbit! I love the motors the Envy 7 uses – they’re rumbly and strong, in both the shaft and the clit arm. I enjoyed most of the patterns, and once I found one I wanted to use, I liked being able to increase the intensity. The curve of the shaft hits my G-spot dead-on, and the vibrations are perfectly targeted on it for me. The charge life is decent – enough for about 2 sessions for me, and the recharging time is fairly short.

The buttons on the bottom can be a bit trial and error at first – until I had the location down, I would change patterns or turn the Envy 7 off unintentionally, but after a bit I was able to get the pattern that I wanted and pump up the vibrations. There’s no way to decrease the vibration except by turning this toy off and then back on, but that can be done fairly quickly. I really love the memory feature – it lets me start out with the pattern I like the most.

The button on the shaft didn’t do much for me – with rabbits, I prefer to have both parts vibrating, and running either the clit arm or shaft separately doesn’t do anything for me.

The only thing that would really improve this one is having the clit arm be just a bit more flexible, allowing it to have a wider angle out from the shaft. It fit me comfortably, but just a 1/2″ more would have been ideal for me.

Thank you to Jopen for sending me the Envy 7 for free to review! If you’d like to stuff your stocking with this powerful and compact rabbit, you can pick one up at SheVibe by clicking on the widget below. And don’t forget to check out Jopen on Facebook and Twitter!

This product was provided to me for free in exchange for an honest review. This review is in compliance with the FTC guidelines.

Wicked Wednesday: Skeletons In The Closet

Skeletons in the closet….everyone has them….some of them are buried deeply, behind the seldom worn dresses or under the worn but yet-to-be-tossed pair of shoes….others lurk closer to the door, their bony fingers curling around the door jamb as they inch the door open….slowly….pausing when the hinges creak….you feel the bony fingers tracing a chill up your spine…and when you turn and slam the door closed, you breath a sigh of relief…but feel a tingle of fear that one of the skeletons is gone….

By Jan Kamení?ek (Own work) [CC-BY-SA-3.0], via Wikimedia Commons

By Jan Kamení?ek (Own work) [CC-BY-SA-3.0], via Wikimedia Commons


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TMI Tuesday: Travel

View of Las Vegas

View of Las Vegas

This time of year lots of people travel: Travel to family for the holidays, travel to warm places to escape winter weather and more. For this TMI Tuesday let’s talk travel…

1. My favorite travel companion is _my family. Although traveling with my boss to conferences is also, I must admit, a lot of fun_

2. I pass time on a plane by _drugging up and sleeping if possible. Have I mentioned just how much I dislike flying? I’ve had bad experiences on both big airliners and puddle jumpers, and being comatose is by far the best way to get through it. I have been known to read, or watch the in-flight movie, although having to see Salmon Fishing in the Yemen – twice – had me seriously wishing for a few sleeping pills… _

3. My favorite part of my travel routine is _unpacking in the hotel. Packing is a chore – I always take too much on the way there, and buy too much to fit on the way back…but unpacking either at the destination or when back home is always the best._

4. When you travel with a companion who is the primary planner for the trip itinerary? Who is the primary planner for the days during your trip/holiday?
I usually plan out the trip in detail, no matter if we’re going on a family vacation, or if we’re heading to Sin City. The hotel, the airline, the plans when there, are all done by me. I would love to have a trip planned out for me….

5. In 2014, how many times did you travel for leisure? For business?
This year was one of the few years I didn’t get to travel anywhere for leisure (I’m not counting out-of-town shopping trips, or day trips). I traveled on business a few times – including one kickass conference.

6. In 2014, how many times did you travel more than 100 miles from home? How many times did you travel out of your county/state/region but remained in the same country?
A few. Offhand, I’d say 5 times. Only one of those was out of state.

7. In 2014, How many times did your travels take you out of your country? Where did you go?
Unfortunately, no out of country trips for me this year. I’d like to go on a trip to Japan next year – fingers crossed.

8. Do you use a travel agent? Why or why not?
No – I do my own planning online. The last time I used a travel agent was when I got married – it’s so easy to do everything online now. I might use an agent for a cruise or other special trip, but otherwise it’s online sites for me.

9. For the holiday season, do you prefer to travel/go away or do you prefer to stay home and have friends/family visit you?
I’d like to start traveling on the holidays, but for many years now, Santa was not about to haul gifts to some exotic locale. It is nice to be home and have others visit.

Bonus: Which all-expenses-paid travel destination listed below works best with your interests and why?
a. Walt Disney World ?
b. Tigh-na-mara Seaside Spa Resort A nature lover’s wonderland–hiking, biking, kayaking, wildlife viewing, beachcombing, and health farm amenities.
c. Macau, China The top gambling destination in the world, experience gambling and casino life excess on an unprecedented level

They all sound fun. I’ve been to Walt Disney World a few times – I prefer Disneyland, but between Disney and Universal Studios, I can have a great week. Macau would be interesting, and I think exciting, to visit for the experience. I think Tigh-na-mara would be fantastic as well….that would really be my prefernce…but can I just do all 3 next year?

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