Wicked Wednesday: Spread The Love

When love is unexpectedly spread…the gesture…the gift…the brief yet bright spot of happiness when someone makes you feel good, and loved…and you can do the same for someone else…it’s a feeling like no other.

So many ways to spread the love…some more literal than others…

By http://www.londonfetishscene.com/wipi/index.php/User:Balzac [GFDL or CC-BY-SA-3.0], via Wikimedia Commons

By http://www.londonfetishscene.com/wipi/index.php/User:Balzac [GFDL or CC-BY-SA-3.0], via Wikimedia Commons


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TMI Tuesday: WTH Is She Thinking?!

By published under psudonym Dumoulin, J.-X. (Humiliations chéries) [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

By published under psudonym Dumoulin, J.-X. (Humiliations chéries) [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

1. You have been asked to organize a sex & kink weekend. Will you be more of a “hands-on” person or more of an “ideas” person?
Hmm…tough decision! I think I’d like to be a bit of both – come up with ideas for the weekend, as that would be fun, but also participate. There’s no better way to learn than hands-on, after all.

2. Assuming you are the hands-on type at this weekend sex romp, and you’ve entered a tent to ‘play’ with a male/female couple. Would you like to be given clear instructions before you begin to ‘play’ or do you prefer to be given the general idea of the task and work it out your own way.
I am more of a free-thinker, and I think it would be much more enjoyable to have the general idea and play it out than to have the whole thing entirely scripted.

3. True or False. “During sex, I like to hear and accept feedback.”
True. I like feedback, especially when it’s in the form of moans and sighs.

4. What are you wearing right now?
Right now I’m wearing a tiger-striped thong under a pair of grey shorts, and a black and grey t-shirt (no bra).

5. I show loyalty to my lover by _being receptive and communicating__ .

6. Do you always have to argue?
No – I don’t ever really have to, although if I’m right about something I most definitely will. And I’m usually pretty good at it.

Bonus: Pick up the closest book to you, open it to page 55. The first line on that page reads:
”…miser, you hoard up all the beauty in these drawers.” This is from The Collector, by John Fowles.


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What To Wear

Spring and Easter are just around the corner, and it’s a time of flowers, bunnies, and of course, eggs. It’s been a while since I tried out an insertable egg-style vibrator,  so I was happy to receive the Power Play Kegel Exciter from Cal Exotics this month for free as part of their Sexpert program.

calexkegelinboxThe Kegel Exciter comes in an easy-to-open plastic clamshell case. It’s available in pink, teal, and purple, and I received mine in pink. The toy is visible through the front of the packaging, and the back contains some information. A general instruction booklet is also included.

calexkegelfrontviewThis is a vibrating egg with a retrieval cord. It’s about 5 1/2″ long overall: the body is 2 1/2″ and the cord is another 3”. The egg is about 1 1/4” in diameter, and it has a slightly tapered tip for easier insertion (use a good water-based lube to make insertion easier). The toy is made of ABS with a PU Cote (the egg itself) and silicone (the décor, cord, and buttons).  The egg itself is firm with a satiny finish, while the silicone cord is flexible and can stretch some.

The Kegel Exciter runs on 1 AAA battery. The battery compartment is on the back side of the egg (opposite the buttons), and slides off to insert the battery. When the door is securely closed, the Kegel Exciter is waterproof.

CALEXkegelbatteriesTwo buttons are located on the lower part of the body. The top button is the on/off button, and the bottom button controls the functions.  Once turned on, pressing the bottom button will cycle through 10 vibrations and patterns. The strength is about what you’d expect for a single AAA battery, and the toy isn’t terribly noisy – you won’t hear it if you use it internally (although you’ll feel it), and any background noise will cover the sound it makes if you use it for clitoral stimulation. An LED light between the buttons will flash and glow to the setting the toy is on.

The Kegel Exciter is easy to clean, and should be washed before and after use with an antibacterial soap and warm water, then dried. The battery should be removed when the toy isn’t in use.  You can easily store this in a drawer or toy bag.

calexkegelwithstringSo, Did It Work? I love wearable, vibrating eggs, and the Kegel Exciter is a decent one. I will admit that I misread its name when I first got it and thought it was called a Kegel Exerciser, but as an exciter it does its job. The vibrations aren’t crazy-powerful, but I like the intensity of this just fine, especially since I like to use this internally for longer periods of time and want to maintain some control.  It’s not too hard to change the patterns when using this internally, but you do have to pull it down to get to the button, so I like to find the pattern I prefer and leave it set until I’m ready to remove it.

In addition to using this internally, it works well for clit stimulation, especially when I want a milder vibration. The range of patterns is nice,  and the firmness is also good.

The one thing that would make this better as a wear-around toy would be to have a small remote – that way I could change the patterns while it was in place, or leave it up to my partner to turn it on and set the vibrations.

Thank you to Cal Exotics for sending me the Kegel Exciter to review as part of the Sexpert program! If you like internal eggs that you can wear and be stimulated for longer periods of time, or you’d like to try it out and see why it’s so fun, this is a good choice. You can pick up the Kegel Exciter at Adam & Eve by clicking the widget below.

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This product was provided to me for free in exchange for an unbiased review. This review is in compliance with the FTC guidelines.

Wicked Wednesday: Try Something New

By SimonKirny (Public Domain Super Heroes Wiki) [CC BY-SA 3.0], via Wikimedia Commons

By SimonKirny (Public Domain Super Heroes Wiki) [CC BY-SA 3.0], via Wikimedia Commons

Trying something new can be exciting….it can be a bit frightening as well, but sometimes I think a little bit of fear is a good thing, and it’s often better than being stuck in a rut. I tend to try new things when I hit low points in my life, or find things changing around me.

I’ve tried new things over the years, both sexually and in regular-life. I do have a sexual bucket list, and one of these days I will knock off everything on it…or at least try to. I’m working on my other bucket list as well, and I find that the older I get, the more I want to try new things while I still have the chance to.

My latest venture into trying something new has been learning a new language.  I’ve taken Spanish in the past and can speak a smattering, and I took Latin for years, which isn’t spoken (although we used to), but it helped a lot with my English.  This past year I decided I wanted to do some traveling soon, and also that I’d like to be able to watch foreign horror movies in their native language without subtitles…,I want to go to Japan in the near future…so I jumped into learning Japanese.

The first semester of class, I will say I was nervous – more than a skoshi in fact.  Japanese has three character sets: 2 kana, hiragana for Japanese words and katakana for foreign words, consisting of 47 characters representing sounds, and the kanji, which has over 2000 symbols representing words.  Sometimes words are written in romaji, which uses the English character set to spell the word out, until the kana are mastered.

Some words and phrases.

Some words and phrases.

The hiragana and katakana were hard to learn at first, until I got the mnemonics down, and then I managed to memorize them. The beauty of Japanese kana is that you can read the word by sound, as each character represents a sound and not a single letter – there’s not the confusion that English has with letters pronounced differently.  It’s interesting reading menus from Subway and other chains in Japanese – and also a lot of fun.

The kanji are something else – and harder to learn and memorize for me, for the most part. Some of them are easy – mountain and river to name just a few – while others are rather complex and require a stroke order memorization.  They’re pretty essential, and I’m up to about 80 so far…and I have a long way to go.

Reading and writing are easier, I think, than speaking, but that’s finally coming too…I’m thankful that I can still memorize fairly easily.  Japanese doesn’t have a lot of things other languages have, which is how it makes up for the alphabets, and a lot of it is making sense as I work my way through semester two.  If I ever start dreaming in Japanese, I’ll know I’ve got it mastered, but for now I can manage a simple conversation, and even talk about the weather – always a good start.

What will be the next new thing I try? I don’t know. I’m sure something will catch my eye or tickle my fancy, and off I’ll go. I want to experience…and to know.

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TMI Tuesday: Happy St. Patrick’s Day

By National Library of Ireland on The Commons (Flickr: Happy St. Patrick's Day!) [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

By National Library of Ireland on The Commons (Flickr: Happy St. Patrick’s Day!) [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

1. You found your pot o’ gold. How much is in the pot? What will you do with your gold?
Can it be bottomless? I can’t come up with an exact dollar amount, but enough to make me happy until the day I die. I would probably splurge on a few new things (house, car, private island), and then save what I didn’t spend for a rainy day.

2. Some things get better with age, have you? What specifically has gotten better?
Hmm…yes, I’ve gotten better, except for my memory. I think I’ve gotten better with managing and being in touch with my feelings, and better pursuing what I want in life.

3. Are you above average or below average?
I would say I’m above average.

4. What was the last romantic act you did for someone? Did they appreciate it?
The last romantic thing I did for someone was write something for them….and I think they appreciated it.

5. Think back to your very last argument, whose fault was it?
I suppose it’s always my fault….

Bonus: I have an overactive _libido_ .

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