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Kink Of The Week: Lingerie

Black, with pink pinstripes and lace

Black, with pink pinstripes and lace

I love pretty lingerie, whether it’s lacy bras and panties, or chemises, gowns, or corsets. I don’t wear it all the time, but I do enjoy it.

I love having a pretty bra and matching thong or panties on under whatever I’m wearing to work, whether it’s a t-shirt and jeans, a suit, or a dress. The feel of it against my skin, and knowing what it looks like, makes me feel sexier, more confident, and just all-around better, even though no one knows what I’ve got on. I have bras in all styles and colors, from black and lacy to red and shiny, even multicolored bras, and some push-up as well. I think they go best with thongs, and I have thongs by the drawer full.

photo-8It’s not a necessity to wear lingerie to bed or for sex, but I do enjoy it, and I have quite a wide variety of styles and looks, some with thigh-high stockings and some without.And of course, they go with matching shoes and earrings. I’ve gone through a lot of phases in my lingerie over the years as well. For a while it was form-fitting lingerie that was open-cup, and I had black, red, tiger-striped, and even polka dot outfits like this. All of them had snap-crotches, of course. Next came the short gowns, most in slinky fabrics, in any color combination you can imagine. I like the very short gowns that have garters attached for an extra-naughty look, and I have a very pretty one in purple.

Fishnet lingerie became a favorite for a while, including body stockings and even fishnet dresses. I also have a variety of vinyl lingerie – shiny black short skirts and bras for the most part, although there is that number in red…I also like leather lingerie, in the form of bras, spanking skirts, and teddies….the teddies seem to have  a lot of chains on them…I have sexy lingerie for Christmas, and even a few pairs of chaps for those hard-riding days.

I like to pick out my own lingerie, but it’s also fun when my partner picks it out for me. It can be fun, and a bit of a surprise, to see what he’d like to see me in.

I really do love lingerie, but I don’t need to wear it to feel kinky. It makes me feel sexy, but I can feel just as sexy totally nude, wearing just a pair of earrings. Even though I don’t consider it my kink, I do consider it a lot of fun.

 

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Kink Of The Week: Pigtails

By Lilyu (Own work) [see page for license], via Wikimedia Commons

By Lilyu (Own work) [see page for license], via Wikimedia Commons

I like pigtails. Even when I was younger, I had very long hair, almost down to my waist at times. I used to like to wear them high, so they’d fall down past my ears and below my shoulders. I had colored bands, some with balls on them, and lots of hair ribbons to match. Getting the part straight was sometimes tricky, but I could do it with a mirror. The first time I went to Disneyland, Goofy even held up my pigtail against his ear to see which was longer.

When I got older, I typically wore a pony tail instead, sometimes high up and sometimes low on the nape of my neck. Pony tails were just easier to manage, since I didn’t have to worry about getting that straight part down the middle. I could whip one in with just a rubber band, or even flip it through my own hair into a knot if necessary. If I’m not wearing my hair long, it depends on how much time I have as to which way I’ll do my hair.

I think pigtails are cute, but I don’t find them particularly sexual. They don’t turn me on to see or even to wear – they’re just another hairstyle for me, albeit one that makes me feel younger. I have done my hair up like this if I’m sporting a schoolgirl or cheerleader costume for sexual play, and my partner appreciates it, but I don’t think it’s the pigtails themselves that are turning him on.

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Kink Of The Week: Laughter

Lovis Corinth [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

Lovis Corinth [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

I like to laugh. There’s something about laughter that can be infectious, and contagious, and often once I get going I find it hard to stop. Sometimes I laugh when watching movies (I’ll admit few of these are true comedies, as my sense of humor can be rather dark), other times at jokes or when I’m talking with someone. Sometimes my laughter is nervous if the situation is new, and other times it’s a full expression of how I’m feeling since something’s tickled my funny bone.

Laughter isn’t really something I associate with our kink play, although it happens on occasion. Usually it involves tickling, as tickling makes me giggle and then laugh uncontrollably until my sides hurt. Even when there’s no bondage involved, just tickling each other is so fun and playful, it’s truly enjoyable.

Sometimes, even when I’m tied down and/or we’re in the middle of an act, something will strike me as funny. and then both of us will be convulsing and not able to continue for a while.

I remember one time, we had a porn on in the background. It wasn’t a particularly kinky one, and I don’t remember who the woman was, except she was blonde, large breasted, and getting fucked from behind by an unknown guy (I know, that really narrows it down).

We had the volume up a little bit and were getting into it, when suddenly we heard “Oooooooh-eeeeeeee! Ooooooh-eeeeeee!” in this high pitched, twangy voice… We both stopped and looked at the TV, and she had the funniest look on her face, and she kept twanging out that sound…and we started to laugh. And every time we’d look at each other, trying to stop laughing, she’d say “Oooooooh-eeeeeeee! Ooooooh-eeeeeee!” again, and we’d both burst into laughter again. My stomach hurt so bad, but I couldn’t stop, and could hardly get air. My partner was doubled over on the floor, and couldn’t stop laughing long enough to get up and grab the remote so we could mute the sound. He finally got to it and shut the sound off, but by then we were so out of the moment we just couldn’t get back into it for anything.

Needless to say, we tend to keep the porn muted or have music on instead.

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Kink Of The Week: Handcuffs

By Emily CC-BY-2.0], via Wikimedia Commons

By Emily CC-BY-2.0], via Wikimedia Commons

Handcuffs were one of the first kinky items I think I was ever exposed to. They weren’t kinky initially, of course. I had some as a kid, and I remember playing cops and robbers with the neighbor boys…the robbers always got caught and cuffed.

When I was in college, though, they weren’t for playing cops and robbers. One night my partner pulled out a pair, and I laughed, thinking seriously?  They were pretty standard: cheap, shiny metal with small keyholes on each cuff, and a fast release lever (also good for when you lose the key). I let him cuff me with my hands behind my back, and then later in front, and it was fun….and a bit kinky…and afterwards my wrists had red lines from the cuffs.

Handcuffs are not my favorite way to be bound, although I do have several pairs, and they can be fun on occasion. I have some that come with a furry tube that covers the cuff and makes them much more comfortable to wear, although I then have to color coordinate my lingerie. I even have some that are shackles – handcuffs and ankle cuffs, connected by a long chain. Those are quite different, and they can also be a lot of fun.

We mostly use the handcuffs if we’re role-playing – I have a rather sexy cop outfit, and my poor policewoman often finds the tables turned and ends up in the cuffs – but I’d much rather be bound with leather cuffs. For me, they’re more comfortable to wear, and a lot more versatile and easier to attach to various things as we play.

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Kink Of The Week: Crops

By Irving Klaw (http://www.grrl.com/bpbondage.html) [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

By Irving Klaw (http://www.grrl.com/bpbondage.html) [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

I like crops. It was quite a while into our play before I ever tried one – before that my ass primarily got spanked with his hand, whether I was tied up or over his knee. I was curious about the crops (having tried and liked floggers and paddles) though, and since I was reviewing a lot of products at the time, I ended up with my first one.

My first crop wasn’t anything expensive or elaborate – it was actually kind of cute. It was made to go with a nurse theme, and it had a small, round, white end with a red cross on it. I dressed up the first night I wanted to use it (as a nurse of course), and it was a hit. Pardon the pun.

I have several other crops now, including a neat kit with interchangeable heads (including a small hand and foot), and two that are more standard, with the leather (or faux leather, as the case may be) in a small, flat loop.

We use a crop often when we’re playing. I like the small surface area they have, since it makes the sting more targeted. Usually he’ll use it when I’m on my knees or bound face down. I can handle it for a while, and then it stings….it can sting and hurt an incredible amount for me. I can handle the pain for a while, and then I just can’t anymore. He always stops when I ask (or in some cases shriek) to stop, and then my ass burns from the blows for some time afterwards. The marks tend to stay for quite a while as well.

 

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