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Kink Of The Week: Orgasm Control

Posted on April 4, 2014 | 5 comments

By Photos by flipchip / LasVegasVegas.com [CC-BY-SA-3.0], via Wikimedia Commons

By Photos by flipchip / LasVegasVegas.com [CC-BY-SA-3.0], via Wikimedia Commons

I don’t have very good orgasm control. I can hold back for a while, but when I have to cum, I have to cum. Trying to hold back, for me, often makes my orgasms much more intense than if I just came when I was ready. If I was told not to orgasm, I could only do it for so long, and then it’d be all over.

Forced orgasms, on the other hand, I do enjoy to a point. WHen I’m bound, I like having a wand making me cum over and over, and being powerless to stop it. But after several orgasms, I really feel like I just can’t have any more. Which of course I can, but they’re so intense at that point that I need a break. They aren’t punishment, by any means, and I don’t think even for a sense of control, but just for satisfaction during play.

I’ve heard that people can cum on command, but I’m certainly not one of them. I can be aroused and dripping at just a few words, but I can’t seem to take it all the way. It’s something I’d like to know more about, but I suspect it’s something I’d never be able to achieve.

 

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Kink Of The Week: Dildos

Posted on March 28, 2014 | 6 comments
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From left to right: Eleven, Smooth S, Leisure, Fling, Dracula, Cyborg

I love dildos. I’ll admit that I have more vibrators, but there’s just something about dildos that I enjoy. It took me a while to get my first one, but now, for me, they’re like Lay’s potato chips – you can’t fuck just one.

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The Tantus Sherbet on the Tantus suction cup

The very first dildo I ever got, and which I still have, was the silicone Tantus Sherbet. It was also the first dildo I ever wrote a review for. Yes, it has a bullet hole, but it works just fine without vibration. Plus, it’s the most beautiful green.

I have a large assortment of silicone dildos, which include all sizes from small to large, the largest being Hoss. Some are beautifully colored – green, pink, black, orange, and blue – while others are flesh tones. Some are rather monstrous as well. Many of the brightly colored ones are realistic in shape, but some are not….and all of the flesh-colored ones are realistic. I do still have some non-silicone realistic dildos that I just can’t get rid of because of their size and how they feel. These are quite detailed, and are molded from real people…quite well endowed porn stars.

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Smooth Operator on the stationary bike

Several of the dildos I own have that bullet hole on the bottom, which works well on a suction cup attachment…and using a suction cup adds a whole new dimension for playing with them. Hole or not, they all work well on a fucking machine.

While I do love silicone, I also have a lot of dildos in other materials, including glass, metal, and wood. Most of my glass dildos are colorful, although a few are clear, and they tend to be smaller in girth than all the others. My metal dildos include the Eleven, which is by far the heaviest one I own. I only have two wooden ones: the Smooth S and the Fling, both from NobEssence, and they are two of my favorites. I particularly love the fling, which as a handle…and that comes in pretty handy.

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Shane Diesel’s cock

Overall, I prefer grittier dildos and dildos with texture…unless they’re for anal use, where I prefer them thinner and smooth. I like curved ones, as they’re better to hit my g-spot, but straight ones can be quite filling and satisfying as well.

Dildos are great anytime: solo or with my partner, during kink play or regular sex. I don’t consider dildos inherently kinky, although when I’ve got two on the machine thrusting away into me and I’m bound, it probably crosses over that line. But as much as I love them, they’re really no substitute for a flesh and blood cock.

 

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Kink Of The Week: Laughter

Posted on March 7, 2014 | 2 comments

Lovis Corinth [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

Lovis Corinth [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

I like to laugh. There’s something about laughter that can be infectious, and contagious, and often once I get going I find it hard to stop. Sometimes I laugh when watching movies (I’ll admit few of these are true comedies, as my sense of humor can be rather dark), other times at jokes or when I’m talking with someone. Sometimes my laughter is nervous if the situation is new, and other times it’s a full expression of how I’m feeling since something’s tickled my funny bone.

Laughter isn’t really something I associate with our kink play, although it happens on occasion. Usually it involves tickling, as tickling makes me giggle and then laugh uncontrollably until my sides hurt. Even when there’s no bondage involved, just tickling each other is so fun and playful, it’s truly enjoyable.

Sometimes, even when I’m tied down and/or we’re in the middle of an act, something will strike me as funny. and then both of us will be convulsing and not able to continue for a while.

I remember one time, we had a porn on in the background. It wasn’t a particularly kinky one, and I don’t remember who the woman was, except she was blonde, large breasted, and getting fucked from behind by an unknown guy (I know, that really narrows it down).

We had the volume up a little bit and were getting into it, when suddenly we heard “Oooooooh-eeeeeeee! Ooooooh-eeeeeee!” in this high pitched, twangy voice… We both stopped and looked at the TV, and she had the funniest look on her face, and she kept twanging out that sound…and we started to laugh. And every time we’d look at each other, trying to stop laughing, she’d say “Oooooooh-eeeeeeee! Ooooooh-eeeeeee!” again, and we’d both burst into laughter again. My stomach hurt so bad, but I couldn’t stop, and could hardly get air. My partner was doubled over on the floor, and couldn’t stop laughing long enough to get up and grab the remote so we could mute the sound. He finally got to it and shut the sound off, but by then we were so out of the moment we just couldn’t get back into it for anything.

Needless to say, we tend to keep the porn muted or have music on instead.

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Kink Of The Week: Handcuffs

Posted on February 28, 2014 | 6 comments

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By Emily CC-BY-2.0], via Wikimedia Commons

Handcuffs were one of the first kinky items I think I was ever exposed to. They weren’t kinky initially, of course. I had some as a kid, and I remember playing cops and robbers with the neighbor boys…the robbers always got caught and cuffed.

When I was in college, though, they weren’t for playing cops and robbers. One night my partner pulled out a pair, and I laughed, thinking seriously?  They were pretty standard: cheap, shiny metal with small keyholes on each cuff, and a fast release lever (also good for when you lose the key). I let him cuff me with my hands behind my back, and then later in front, and it was fun….and a bit kinky…and afterwards my wrists had red lines from the cuffs.

Handcuffs are not my favorite way to be bound, although I do have several pairs, and they can be fun on occasion. I have some that come with a furry tube that covers the cuff and makes them much more comfortable to wear, although I then have to color coordinate my lingerie. I even have some that are shackles – handcuffs and ankle cuffs, connected by a long chain. Those are quite different, and they can also be a lot of fun.

We mostly use the handcuffs if we’re role-playing – I have a rather sexy cop outfit, and my poor policewoman often finds the tables turned and ends up in the cuffs – but I’d much rather be bound with leather cuffs. For me, they’re more comfortable to wear, and a lot more versatile and easier to attach to various things as we play.

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Kink Of The Week: Crops

Posted on February 21, 2014 | 5 comments

By Irving Klaw (http://www.grrl.com/bpbondage.html) [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

By Irving Klaw (http://www.grrl.com/bpbondage.html) [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

I like crops. It was quite a while into our play before I ever tried one – before that my ass primarily got spanked with his hand, whether I was tied up or over his knee. I was curious about the crops (having tried and liked floggers and paddles) though, and since I was reviewing a lot of products at the time, I ended up with my first one.

My first crop wasn’t anything expensive or elaborate – it was actually kind of cute. It was made to go with a nurse theme, and it had a small, round, white end with a red cross on it. I dressed up the first night I wanted to use it (as a nurse of course), and it was a hit. Pardon the pun.

I have several other crops now, including a neat kit with interchangeable heads (including a small hand and foot), and two that are more standard, with the leather (or faux leather, as the case may be) in a small, flat loop.

We use a crop often when we’re playing. I like the small surface area they have, since it makes the sting more targeted. Usually he’ll use it when I’m on my knees or bound face down. I can handle it for a while, and then it stings….it can sting and hurt an incredible amount for me. I can handle the pain for a while, and then I just can’t anymore. He always stops when I ask (or in some cases shriek) to stop, and then my ass burns from the blows for some time afterwards. The marks tend to stay for quite a while as well.

 

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