TMI Tuesday: I Can’t Get No Satisfaction

1. From erotica to sex blogs everyone seems to be having intense orgasms. Do you feel like you are experiencing the same intense orgasmic waves everyone talks about?
Actually yes. I cum hard and loud, and sometimes orgasms bring me to tears. I don’t think I’ve ever had the gentle ones, but I’ll certainly take the ones I get. I didn’t always have orgasms, but once I did, I didn’t have any trouble getting back there.

2. At the beginning of our sexual lives, we are often let down because it feels like nothing in comparison to what we see in films and magazines. Sexual pleasure is something you learn more about as you get older. How have you learned to cultivate the pleasure that you feel?
When my partner and I first started dating, we were pretty inexperienced. Or rather, I was more inexperienced than he was. We pretty much learned by exploration and experimentation, and over the years we’ve found what works for us. We also try new things quite a bit, and if it feels good, we make it a part of or sex life.

3. In the last 3 years, has your sexual pleasure:
a. waned
b. stayed the same
c. increased, enhanced, improved
I’d say c. The past few years I’ve had a ridiculously high sex drive, and the increase in sex has increased my sexual pleasure. Probably because I cum a lot.

4. If you are feeling much more sexual pleasure than your lover do you feel the need to make up the deficit or just live in the moment and enjoy what has been given to you?
I’m pretty much a live in the moment girl, and he’s happy to make me happy. That’s not to say I won’t “make up the deficit” at a later time if he was a bit out of it, but usually he’s feeling a lot of sexual pleasure when I am.

5. How important is it to you for you and your lover to have simultaneous orgasms?
a. not important – never thought about it
b. somewhat important – I think it would be nice to explode at the same time
c. important – that is what I ‘work’ for, cumming at the same time makes everything more intense–my orgasm, my feelings, the entire experience.
I’ll go with b. We like to cum at the same time, but I rarely have just one orgasm, so for at least one of them we’re usually cumming together. It’s nice when we both explode to be able to collapse into each others’ arms.

Bonus: Do you think that having an orgasm is the same as sexual pleasure? Why or why not?
I think they’re really two different things – or rather an orgasm is a subset of sexual pleasure. You can have sexual pleasure without hitting that pinnacle, but you can’t have an orgasm without being sexually pleased.