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Kink of the Week: Protocol

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When I think of protocol, the first thing that comes to mind is how computers exchange information. There’s a set of rules that facilitate the communication, and without the protocol, messages can’t be sent back and forth effectively, if at all.

I think of protocol somewhat similarly in kink relationships. Communication, and a set of rules, that make the relationship work. Which is probably a dry and short description, but it makes sense to me.

Our relationship is only really kinky in the bedroom. Back when we first started playing more heavily, we sat down and had a conversation about how kinky we’d be (open to later discussion), and where and how we’d express our kink. What we decided was that how we played in the bedroom would not be how we’d be in the rest of our lives. So, our day to day protocol is probably boringly vanilla to a lot of people, and not at all a kink protocol. While I love to do things for him, he loves to do things for me as well, and our exchanges are open and mutual, with no aspect of what I’d call real submission, just the joy of pleasing each other with simple acts and words.

In the bedroom, we have a much different protocol, and one that’s still evolving. Neither of us is really into switching. Although I’ve done it, and do it, on occasion, I much prefer to be submissive and have him be dominant and rough.  When we play, the first order of business is always the collar. He doesn’t place it on me; rather, I place it on myself to symbolize that I’m his. He may tell me to do certain things, or use certain toys, and it’s not my place to question.  The rule is simple: he “asks”, and I obey.  Our protocols are pretty simple in how we act, and they have changed some since we began, but the main one is to be subservient to him.

Quite honestly, I love the behaviors, rules, and all that goes with it, and there are times I think it might be interesting to try it when we’re together in the house and not in public as a next step. This will be possible in a few years, and we may have to test the waters then and see what happens.

All Hell’s Breakin’ Loose

After reading The Slave Factory, I was left with a lot of questions. I was intrigued by the characters and wanted to know more. What exactly happened after the book ended?  How did the slaves fare with their new Masters and Mistresses? And did Tonya make the right choice? I didn’t have to wait long to find out, as I. M. Telling recently published the sequel, and second book in a planned trilogy – The Slave Factory: Exposed! The author provided me with a free copy in exchange for this review.

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I Would. Would You?

What would you do for money? Not for a few hundred dollars, but for lots of money – say millions of dollars. If you were offered such an amount to go through slave training and serve a year for a master, would you go for it, knowing you’d need to leave your current life behind, or would you walk away? Would the money be your only motivation, or deep down, would you yearn for the experience? What limits do you have?  These are some of the questions explored in I. M. Telling’s new book, The Slave Factory, and the author provided me a copy of this book for free in exchange for this review.

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Prisoner In Purple

I love watching shows on premium networks, and Showtime has some of my favorites. The shows can be edgy, and certainly top anything found on regular TV. Gigolos, a reality series which premiered in 2011 and is now in season 4, follows the lives, both personal and professional, of five Las Vegas gigolos. Nick Hawk is one of these hot gigolos in the show, and now he’s got a featured line of products with Cal Exotics. I got to review one of these new products for free this month, the Nick Hawk GIGOLO Locked Up & Lights Out Kit, as part of Cal Exotics’ Sexpert program.

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Gag Me With An O

Most of the gags I have, for those times we’re playing kinky) are ball gags. They work, and work pretty well, but for some time I’ve had a fascination with open mouth gags, especially after seeing some version or other of them in videos.  The first one I tried out wasn’t what I was expecting. Happily, I received the First Time Fetish “O” Ring Gag this month to for free, in exchange for an unbiased review, as part of Cal Exotics’ Sexpert program.

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