Kink Of The Week: Temperature Play

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I dabble with mild temperature play, but decided to look up what all this encompasses. From wikipedia:

“Temperature play is a form of BDSM sensual play where objects and substances are used to stimulate the body’s neuroreceptors for heat and cold for sensual effect. Substances can include water, oil, molten wax, ice, chocolate syrup, whipped cream, melted butter, chilled fresh fruit and steamed vegetables.”

Some of that sounds a lot more like food play, some erotic and some not, quite honestly! Using steamed vegetables as a form of temp play would never have crossed my mind. Tempura play, maybe?

I’ve certainly heated and cooled my share of dildos. I have a large collection of glass and metal ones, and they work pretty nicely for this. I usually lean towards warming them rather than cooling them, mostly because sticking something cold inside me does not make me gasp from pleasure.

Of course, temperature play doesn’t always involve insertion, and what play we do is usually as foreplay and not really a kink. I’ve been both blindfolded and bound for them, although it’s not actually necessary for us.

I do like to play with ice. There’s nothing quite like my partner holding an ice cube in his fingers and running it around my nipples. Talk about instant hardness! I love the cold feel of the ice, and the wet trail it leaves behind as it melts on my skin. The cold sensation as the ice travels down from my nipples to my belly button is exquisite – and a bit painful if he decides to tease my clit with it.

I don’t play with fire, but I do like some heat. While I’ve not played a lot with wax, I do love massage candles: the feel of the hot oil as it hits my skin and the warmth it creates as my partner trails it over my back before kneading the warm oil into my skin is delicious.

That’s making me think tonight should be a massage night – I think I have a nice, new massage candle on the shelf waiting to be used…

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