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TMI Tuesday: I’m Just Askin’

Pierre Auguste Cot [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

Pierre Auguste Cot [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

1. We are just a few months into 2014 but I want to know what have you done this year that you have never done before?
Hmmmm……Sent naked photos to someone in an email? I’ve sexted a few before, but I never emailed any until this year.

2. You are going to a deserted island, your only entertainment will be to read. What five (5) books will you take with you?
Geez, only 5? Well, let’s see. This is a pretty tough one, but I guess this would be my list of books:
– The Stand by Stephen King
– Dune by Frank Herbert
– Weaveworld by Clive Barker
– The Hyperion Cantos by Dan Simmons (if you’re going to be picky and make it one and not a series, then just Hyperion)
– Twilight Eyes by Dean Koontz

3. We all change and grow over time (at least you should). What two (2) things do you miss about the old you? Why?
Hmmm….these are tough ones this week!
– I miss the old me that had parents. It’s a weird feeling to not have either of them now, and I don’t like it.
– I miss the old me that thought things were simpler than they are and was a lot more spontaneous. Things have gotten awfully complicated in my life, and there’s both a lot of good and some bad there. It’s hard to be spontaneous when things are complicated.

4. How would you define and calculate ‘sexual satisfaction’?
I’d say sexual satisfaction is being happy and content with sex, physically, mentally, and emotionally. I think there must be a good physical component to satisfy the body, a good mental component to keep the mind engaged and open to try new things as well as develop fantasies, and a good emotional component where the desire and love remain strong. If I have all three, then I’m sexually satisfied.

5. Porn–Has it ever been good for your relationship? Has it ever been bad for your relationship?
I don’t think porn has ever been bad for my relationship. I watch a lot of porn…and I do mean a lot. I think, surprisingly enough, it’s been a good way to see things I want to try, as well as be fuel for many fantasies. Plus, since my libido is still on overdrive, it’s a great way to….er, get release.

Bonus: Is there a secret you’d like to share? What is it? Hmmm…my secrets are pretty secret right now. Maybe that I think I’m in love? I’ll keep it simple….


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Kink Of The Week: Pony Play

By J. Gurney & Son (studio) (1867 promotional photocard. Via [1]) [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

By J. Gurney & Son (studio) (1867 promotional photocard. Via [1]) [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

The first time I ever heard of, or saw, pony play was on an HBO series called Real Sex. They had a segment called “Ride Pony Ride” which featured men as the horses and women riding them. I will admit I found it interesting, but not a particular turn-on, as I couldn’t imagine myself being the dominant and riding someone like that. I’d seen a few pictures of women geared up as well, but that didn’t do much for me either.

Several years later, I read a wonderful book, Carrie’s Story by Molly Weatherfield. It was only the third full-length BDSM or erotic story I ever read (The Story of O by Pauline Reage and Us by Anonymous were the first two), and it had a bit of pony play in it, this time with a woman. Told from her point of view, it was even more intriguing, especially as it went into more detail and was a bit more explicit. Carrie was intelligent, witty, and so willing to go along with and enjoy what was happening to her. Then I read Safe Word, the sequel, which went a lot more into the play and activity involved,and it was arousing, especially since it was Carrie’s thoughts and telling of events, and not someone else’s – it was so personal that it did make me wonder what it would be like, to do that for someone I loved or was in service to.

I am somewhat curious about pony play. I can see the attraction, with the gear, harness, bit, hoof gloves, and even the plug tail (and I do have a thing for tail plugs). My partner isn’t interested in pony play in the least, so I don’t see ever experiencing it, whether I had an opportunity or not, unless he’d change his mind and want to play this way. I do think it would be interesting, though, to talk to someone who actually engaged in pony play, and watching such a session in person would be something I’d at least like to do.

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Contest! Win a Copy of The Adventurous Couple’s Guide To Sex Toys!

It’s time for another contest! I’m giving away 1 copy of Violet Blue’s new book, The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Sex Toys, which the awesome folks at Cleis Press are providing for this giveaway.

bookcoverThe Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Sex Toys 
Second Edition
Violet Blue
Foreword by Dr. Charlie Glickman

  • Revised and updated with a “50 Shades of Fun” sex toy overview for the latest in BDSM
  • Violet Blue’s nonfiction books, including The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio, have sold more than 300,000 copies combined
    With a practical, sex-positive approach to pleasure, Violet Blue leads readers through the maze of sex toys on the market, explaining the many options available, including different materials, care and cleaning, and how to see through exaggerated marketing claims. Along the way she offers tips on creative usage and ideas for introducing sex toys to a relationship: how to ask your boyfriend to use the blindfold in your bedside drawer or how to surprise your wife with a saucy gift without getting your face slapped (unless that was the point). From the tried-and-true to the truly spectacular, this guide goes beyond the basics with tips on enacting a threesome fantasy with two people, setting up the sexiest lighting for a webcam show, and shopping for a steel cage dining table for captivating dinner parties. With fun and creative ways to bring sex toys into the bedroom and vital communication skills for couples, this guide is a must-have for the bedroom (or dungeon) bookshelf.
    “No longer are toys solely for solo pleasure. Violet’s vast research and expertise in this area can guide both novice and toy-experienced couples.”
    — Lou Paget, author of The Great Lover Playbook
    Violet Blue is the best-selling author of numerous sex-instruction books, including The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus and The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio. She also writes about erotica, pornography, and sexual pleasure and health for magazines such as O: The Oprah Magazine, Newsweek, Cosmopolitan, Esquire, Glamour, Maxim, Marie Claire, Men’s Health, Penthouse, Redbook, and more. She lives in San Francisco. Dr Charlie Glickman is the author of the upcoming bookThe Ultimate Guide to Prostrate Pleasure. He lives in Oakland, CA

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All Hell’s Breakin’ Loose

After reading The Slave Factory, I was left with a lot of questions. I was intrigued by the characters and wanted to know more. What exactly happened after the book ended?  How did the slaves fare with their new Masters and Mistresses? And did Tonya make the right choice? I didn’t have to wait long to find out, as I. M. Telling recently published the sequel, and second book in a planned trilogy – The Slave Factory: Exposed! The author provided me with a free copy in exchange for this review.


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I Would. Would You?

What would you do for money? Not for a few hundred dollars, but for lots of money – say millions of dollars. If you were offered such an amount to go through slave training and serve a year for a master, would you go for it, knowing you’d need to leave your current life behind, or would you walk away? Would the money be your only motivation, or deep down, would you yearn for the experience? What limits do you have?  These are some of the questions explored in I. M. Telling’s new book, The Slave Factory, and the author provided me a copy of this book for free in exchange for this review.

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