Embrace (and Control) Your Lover

A new year is here, and with it comes new reviews for Cal Exotics products! I have a few rechargeable silicone Cal Exotics toys which I love, particularly those that have a remote control – there’s something about being out in public at a bar or dinner and getting turned on that I find exciting (it’s even exciting at home before we really begin to play). This month, I was thrilled to receive the Embrace Lover’s Remote for free as part of the Cal Exotics’ Sexpert program, in exchange for this unbiased review.


The Lover’s Remote comes in a black box inside a slipcover. It’s available in grey, purple, and pink silicone: I received mine in purple. The front of the slipcover simply states what the product is, while the back shows a picture of the product and has general information. Inside the sturdy box, the remote and controller rest in a foam tray. Underneath the tray are an instruction sheet, a conformity paper with general instructions, and sheet and a USB charging cord.


embraceinhandThe stimulator is about 3 1/4″ long, and 1 1/4″ wide at it’s widest. It’s shaped sort of like a bell, with a smooth, round head (the head is wider than the rest of the insertable portion. The lower end of the stimulator has a silver-plated ABS ring, and the retrieval cord is a continuation of the silicone – it’s not a separate piece. The cord is 3 3/4″ long, and the end has a silver plated circle which the silicone wraps around. The cord is flexible a little stretchy, and makes it easy to retrieve the stimulator when it’s inserted.

embraceremoteThe remote is about 3” long and 1 1/2″ wide. It has a leaf-life shape, and the way it is contoured makes it both easy and comfortable to hold, as well as simple to position if used as an external stimulator. It can be used independently from, and also in conjunction with, the stimulator. It has two buttons: a power button and a function button.

embchargingThe Lover’s Remote charges via a USB cord, which can either be plugged into your computer or a wall adapter. The cord is unusual, and pretty cool, in that both the controller and stimulator can be plugged in at the same time. When charging, the button area of the remote flashes with a purple light, and the stimulator has a small light on its face that also flashes. When charged, the lights glow steady. The jacks plug into small circles on each part of the toy.

This toy comes partially charged from the factory, and should be fully charged before use (a full charge takes about 90 minutes, but the initial charge will take less than that).  Once charged, the remote will run for 90 minutes on high and 2 hours on low.

embracechargingThe stimulator has a small button above its silver band. Pressing and holding the button for 3 seconds will turn on the stimulator, and you’ll know it’s on because the small light will flash. It doesn’t start to vibrate yet, though. You’ll need to press and hold the remote’s power button for three seconds as well. The remote will turn on, and start vibrating on low power. The stimulator will as well.  Pressing the function button will cycle both pieces through the 7 vibrations and patterns together. Will you want both pieces to vibrate? Maybe – your partner can tease themself or you with the contoured remote piece, but they may just want to control the stimulator inside you and not vibrate their hand.

A cool feature of the Lover’s Remote: if you only want the stimulator to vibrate, you can press and hold the remote’s function button for 3 seconds. This will stop the remote from vibrating, but the stimulator will continue to vibrate. The remote will still change the vibration setting of the stimulator, but now the remote is more discreet.  You can also just have the remote vibrate – simply press the stimulator’s button for 3 seconds to turn it off, and then the remote is on its own.

embraceremotesideThe vibrations in the remote are fairly strong, and very buzzy. They’re also a bit loud. When the stimulator is inserted, its vibrations are muffled.  These vibrations are also fairly strong, and a bit less buzzy than the remote’s.

The stimulator is waterproof, and easy to clean with warm water and mild soap. The controller is splashproof, so if you’re just using it as a remote, a wipedown with a wet cloth and soap is fine. A bleach solution or toy cleaner can also be used to clean both parts.  The Lover’s Remote can be stored in the box, along with its cord, or you could use a toy bag or storage pouch if desired (a storage pouch is not included). Water-based lube is recommended.

So, Did It Work? The charger for this is pretty cool – I like that both pieces can be charged at the same time, and not one after another.  Being USB is also useful, although I do usually charge this in a USB wall adapter.

 embinhandflexI do love remote controlled toys for playing in public (as well as at home), and they’re one of those toys that I don’t need to have mega-power, as for me they’re more to tease and arouse me from the inside – they shouldn’t make me have quivering orgasms on the floor at the bar. The vibration strength for both the controller and the stimulator were strong enough for me to feel, and get quite turned on by, and I could handle the vibrations for quite a while before begging to have them turned off.

Using the controller as a vibrating panty insert was interesting. The contour fit me fine, but I had to pull it out and press the button to change settings or turn it off. It was also louder than I’d wear out – although it was fine to use as teasing foreplay at home.  It worked well as an all-over tease, and my partner enjoyed having me use it on his balls, although overall he liked just using it as a remote to control me, and keeping its vibrations off.

The remote control of the stimulator was a bit hit or miss. My partner could control it from about 15 or so feet away, but it had to be pointed at me. And not just to change the pattern, but to keep the stimulator going. When the remote was pointed away, the stimulator would stop vibrating, and then it would start up again when the remote was pointed in the right direction. I’d rather it kept vibrating whether or not he had the remote pointed at me, and that he’d just need to point it to change the setting.

Overall, the Lover’s Embrace is fun, but it works best in a home setting or where you can make sure your partner is able to point the remote towards you to keep the stimulator going strong.

Thank you to Cal Exotics for sending me the Embrace Lover’s Remote for free to review as part of their Sexpert program! If you’re interested in this rechargeable, remote-controlled stimulator, you can pick one up at SheVibe by clicking the widget below.

This product was provided to me for free in exchange for an unbiased review. This review is in compliance with the FTC guidelines.


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